“Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes. Turn and face the strange.”
If you recognize the words to this David Bowie hit (and you’re humming it as you read), you’re probably in the perfect age range to be visiting The Best Half. Welcome! As you know, this time of life is full of ch-changes. My quest is to help you with them, and with the challenges that accompany them.
“But change is scary!” you might be saying. I agree, but it’s inevitable. Ignoring it won’t make it go away. According to Dr. Susan Biali, M.D, author of Live A Life You Love, “Fear will show up EVERY time you’re growing or going where you dream of.” Let’s face that fear and grow together, looking at some of the changes on our horizon using this C-H-A-N-G-E acrostic.
Children are gone or are leaving soon. If you have children, the empty nest is probably one of the biggest changes you’ll face, since it has knock-on effects on several other parts of your life. It changes not only your day-to-day life, but also your relationship with your partner and with each child as they establish their own lives, careers, and families.
Housing needs are changing. With that empty nest, you may start wondering about downsizing. The job may seem overwhelming, but it is do-able, and the benefits far outweigh the work involved.
Activities and interests to pursue. This is a phase of life where you may find you have more spare time. Rather than defaulting to the current hot shows on T.V. or Netflix, why not start pursuing some things you’ve always been interested in, like a class, volunteering, or a new hobby?
New career opportunities. You’re probably at or near the height of your career right now. Consider if that’s where you want to be for this last stretch of employment. Would you want to start a side hustle that could continue into the retirement years?
Growth as a person. Are you happy personally? Spiritually? As a spouse or partner? Now’s a great time to study areas where you’d like to grow, whether it’s booking some therapy or coaching sessions, looking for a place of worship, getting in shape, or joining a Meet Up of people pursuing the same type of growth.
Expenses are lower. When the kids move out and you adjust into this more relaxed phase, it will have positive effects on your budget. That can give you more flexibility to save for retirement or for goals that have previously been delayed like travel or personal education.
So, “turn and face the change,” as David Bowie suggested. While change may be scary, there are many positive benefits in this phase of life. Let’s embrace them and take full advantage of The Best Half.